I am also a single mom of a son - the second time around. My son's dad left when I had him arrested for DV when my son was 5. I then remarried and my current husband and I have been separated for almost 2 years. My son is now almost 11. I have surrounded my son with other men. He plays baseball, basketball and football. His coaches all know he doesn't have a really active parent. My current husband does come around often to see him and anytime I have
a major problem, he tries to help. I have also enlisted the assistance of my dad and brother. They both talk to my son as much as possible. My son's uncles also assist as much as possible since his biodad isn't active at all. I have embraced the concept of "it takes a village to raise a child". I am very lucky in that I am a Captain on a Fire Department and the guys are always willing to offer advice. For me, the ever approaching puberty is going to be a challenge. My son
is suddenly obsessed with the female body - if you know what I mean.... He asked a few weeks ago to see a Playboy. I asked why and he said he just wanted to see boobs. lol I had a hard time keeping a straight face. I explained to him that there was a lot more to a woman than just her body and he told me he already knew that but that other boys had seen them and he wanted too also. I compromised. I allowed him to look at a Maxim. If you are not familiar, Maxim is almost soft porn. I only did this after the guys at work told me he would find a magazine if I didn't show him and they thought it would be best for me to initiate the situation. So, we looked at the magazine and he blushed and it hasn't been brought up again. I think we can all do this. It may take some creativity and a lot of help from outside but I really believe we have the opportunity to shape amazing men. Our sons will have immense respect for women and yet with the right outside help, they can be very healthy. Just my thoughts and experience.
JM
Single Mother's (Single Parent) Raising Sons: http://mothersandsons.blogspot.com/
a major problem, he tries to help. I have also enlisted the assistance of my dad and brother. They both talk to my son as much as possible. My son's uncles also assist as much as possible since his biodad isn't active at all. I have embraced the concept of "it takes a village to raise a child". I am very lucky in that I am a Captain on a Fire Department and the guys are always willing to offer advice. For me, the ever approaching puberty is going to be a challenge. My son
is suddenly obsessed with the female body - if you know what I mean.... He asked a few weeks ago to see a Playboy. I asked why and he said he just wanted to see boobs. lol I had a hard time keeping a straight face. I explained to him that there was a lot more to a woman than just her body and he told me he already knew that but that other boys had seen them and he wanted too also. I compromised. I allowed him to look at a Maxim. If you are not familiar, Maxim is almost soft porn. I only did this after the guys at work told me he would find a magazine if I didn't show him and they thought it would be best for me to initiate the situation. So, we looked at the magazine and he blushed and it hasn't been brought up again. I think we can all do this. It may take some creativity and a lot of help from outside but I really believe we have the opportunity to shape amazing men. Our sons will have immense respect for women and yet with the right outside help, they can be very healthy. Just my thoughts and experience.
JM
Single Mother's (Single Parent) Raising Sons: http://mothersandsons.blogspot.com/
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