A message that we have senT to many boys..

What is the message we send boys about being a mature man?

A possible message that we have sent to many boys (posted to encourage discussion). The person that posted the quoted material requested to be anonymous:

"Hello little boy, we want you to grow up to be a good man but we won't be clear what that is... We will tell you all that’s wrong with just being a man but hide the unique value. Oh by the way, you can get a clear image of being a "bad guy" everywhere. And it is good to be in-touch with your feminine side but your wife may hate you for it in the long run. Also, if you show any aggression or too much exuberance as a boy we will send you to the principal. We will ring all the passion out of you if it looks in any way like aggression then wonder why you don’t take enough initiative in life. As your sex drive develops we will just tell you it is bad and shame you about it, forcing it into the shadows. Don't you realize you are the "privileged one", you have everything, don't you feel it? You are male so you have all the power and are to blame for all the problems. "

Is that not the signal we send when we have not answered the following questions?

What is the unique value of men?

What is the unique value of the masculine?

What is the unique value of fathers?

Are we afraid that just by exploring this it will take something away from women and children, instead of realizing that by NOT exploring this we already are taking something away from women and children?

Consider that when there is less room for the healthy masculine, there will be less room for the healthy feminine. Post your comments or email them to be posted to women@toinquire.com

Again this is presented for discussion not as some dogmatic fact. What is your reaction, experience, etc.

About Single Women (Parents) Raising Sons.. how we started

looking for input from Single Mothers (single parents) Raising Sons A new 'blog' started to share resources
by Martin Brossman

In the course of 10 years of running The Men's Inquiry (and the website http://www.toinquire.com/ ) I have received many calls, from single mothers around the country, about the challenges of raising their sons. I did my best to give some advice and many came back and let me know how useful it was. Problems they would describe were: "I fight with my daughter but we are on the same page, however everything I do with my son seems to blow up in my face" or "I have finally decided I can not be his mom and his dad but where do I find men to play a healthy male role model for him. Obviously the issue of “Single Mothers Raising Sons” is an issue of special importance and concern more appropriately addressed by The Women’s Inquiry ( http://www.thewomensinquiry.com/ ).

To facilitate interchange I have created a blog on the issue. If you or anyone you know is a single mother raising sons and would be willing to help other single mothers raising sons, please provide your inputs to: women@toinquire.com and in the subject line of the E Mail add “Single Mothers Raising Sons.” The information will be posted on the blog address: http://mothersandsons.blogspot.com/ . Your story of what works and what does not work is important. Whether your kids are young or fully grown, we want to hear your voice! This is a public service of The Women's Inquiry and we appreciate your help. This service is not affiliated with any other group or any particular faith.

Special Note: The 10 year’s of inputs to The Men's Inquiry has led to the coming book “Finding Our Fire.” Inputs to this blog may well lead to a similar result. The book would not be another "expert" telling woman what to do but the real words of women who have or are living the experience. If you know of any women that want to write such a book have her contact me. As we proceed we will seek the right women to produce such a book.

Thanks!,
List manager
Martin BrossmanFounder/Organizer of The Men's Inquiry & The Women's InquiryMen's
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Upcoming book (fund raiser for the Men’s & Women’s Inquiry) : "Finding Our Fire": http://www.toinquire.com/findingourfire.htm


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